The Fire of Love
The Fire of Love A brother asked an old man, “Father, what is love?” The elder answered, “To cease living for yourself.” For many call desire love when they merely seek consolation, pleasure, affection or praise from another. Such love remains chained to the passions. When what it desires is withheld, tenderness becomes anger and affection becomes resentment. Thus temptation reveals whether we loved the person or only what we received from him. D esire was planted in the soul that man might long for God. But through the fall it became scattered among created things, and the heart began seeking from them what only the Creator can give. Therefore the ascetic does not destroy desire; he purifies it. Through fasting, vigil, silence, obedience and prayer, he gathers the scattered powers of the soul and turns them again toward God. Yet even asceticism can become food for pride. A man may fast from bread while feeding upon praise, or keep vigil while judging his brother. Better the man...